Friday, September 6, 2013

Birthday 'Blog' from my mom + Sarah's post


Sarah: I wanted to take a minute to celebrate this amazing day. 28 years ago one of the most amazing women in the world was born. I don't know what I would do without my sister.Candice is the most selfless, compassionate, loving person. She truly makes the world a happier place. She is always there for me and always has been whenever I needed it. No matter how far away we are, we will be close. I'm so proud to not only call her my sister, but my best friend. I hope you have the best birthday yet. You DESERVE it!! I love you more than you'll ever know. Words will never be enough to express how thankful I am 

Mommy: Continuation... 28 years ago TODAY at about 6:30 in the morning I went into the hospital to be induced - I was over 2 weeks late for my 1st baby- I was so excited that I barely slept- or maybe it was the Mexican food I ate lol
I had so many thoughts and emotions that I was so overwhelmed (but determined to hold it together and not curse my husband out in the delivery room like all of the stories I had heard ) lol
We arrived and they prepped me -they gave me a drug called pitocin which put you into labor- they didn't tell me it was almost immediate hard labor- the feeling was like the movie Alien- like something was going to rip out of your body- I was supposed to have her natural but there was nothing natural about that pain- MY GOD!!!
Speaking of God I wasn't very religious at the time but man did I learn how to pray fast! I made all of the usual " if you get me through this I will..." type of desperate promises that you make to God when you're in need. Lol
The labor was so hard that the spikes from the contractions were off the charts- no little peaks but lines that went to the top of the page across and then down- I remember that I kept saying "I still love you to John" because everyone said I would hate him haha! I remember them breaking my water which was weird and gross but at least I knew I was getting closer- every "inspection" was so freakin' painful as if you needed someone probing around during some of the most excruciating pain of your life!
Breathing was a joke and so was the focal point that they had you look at - mine was a little stuffed animal that I finally was like " forget it John- I can't look at that thing anymore-please get it out of my face"
I just looked at the tiny holes in the ceiling tiles and started counting them. Also there was a nice nurse who had beautiful blue eyes and sometimes I would look at them. She was wearing Jean Nate perfume and although I normally wouldn't mind the smell- at this point it was making me nauseous - I was freezing- shivering felt like puking this was horrible!! And feeling like this being was going to explode out of my stomach- and yes I know where babies come from- lol
It was a military hospital so there were people being trained- I felt like the whole world had seen me naked- it was so humbling- although I was a twig and in shape (because I exercised right up until the end ha!) To be that disciplined again!! Still very embarrassing and an invasion of my privacy 
Anyway ... Hours had passed by and I wasn't dilating fast enough - next thing you know everyone started panicking and I heard them saying C-section - I know it's pathetic but because I was doing this natural all I could think of is that this seems good to me as long as they "knock me out " this pain. would end. I asked what was going on and they said your baby is in fetal distress - the heart rate is dropping and we need to do an emergency C- section - I asked if they were going to " put me under " anesthesia and they said yes - I was relieved and scared. They were scurrying around panicked and that didn't make me feel so secure about what was going on but Hey- what choice did I have? Finally they told me to count backwards from 10 and I was out...
What I didn't know was that Candice was doing so bad that they had called a priest for last rites because they didn't know if she would make it. She was bruised and purple- swollen - trying to come out but couldn't - the pressure had caused her heart rate to drop and I believe at one point the cord was around her neck -God this poor baby had been through so much!
I had woken up finally, my throat sore from the tube they put down it- and they said " it's a girl" I was like " that's nice" all dozey. When I finally got to hold her I thought she was the most beautiful girl in the world! This baby was a life changer- instantaneous love and adoration.
I wasn't going to nurse because I didn't want more pain-or my boobs to sag - yes - I was self centered then -lol
But Candice would not take the bottle so I ended up nursing- the best forced decision I ever made lol
The C- section was painful, the labor was a nightmare, nursing was ouch! More pain- but it is true! All of it is forgotten when that love you feel for that baby invades your heart 
So miraculous!!! So beautiful!!
Life!! Ahhh the wonder of it all.
I am sooooo thankful for that horrible / wonderful day!! My world was rocked and it began the journey to motherhood.
CaCandice Rose FowlerBorn. 4:30 pm Sept 4, 1985
7lbs 4 oz -20 and 1/4 inches long - I am soooo glad you were born. You have become such a magnificent person- a beautiful woman so caring, loving, compassionate, sweet ,generous, kind hearted etc etc
A true joy to be around. I love you my baby girl!!!

Have a Happy 28th Birthday!!!!
Cya in a little bit 

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